Always accepts invitations, but almost never extends them
Readily receives generosity but rarely offers it.
Extends generosity only for selfish gain, and the receiver is subtly, often behind their back, accused of using her.
For the most part befriends only unattractive, socially awkward people who are outgoing enough to be the aggressor in the initial forming of the friendship, but not so outgoing that they intimidate her
Uses these people for access to their circle of friends, because she herself is not comfortable with the vulnerability that sometimes accompanies the effort of making her own friends. Other people’s friends allow her comfortable distance where she can still convince herself she is popular without having to do the work of maintaining meaningful connections.
Cuts off relationships with people who, turn out to be outgoing or socially vibrant or cantankerous and therefore intimidating
Finds ways to create the illusion of unforgivable fault in those people as her excuse for ending these relationships.
Is deeply unsatisfied with her life and blames other people for her failures and shortcomings.
Takes credit for other peoples achievements whenever she can get away with it.
Believes her own lies
Can’t bare to be challenged or disagreed with and takes even the slightest hint, even in very casual conversation, that someone is asking her to consider another perspective, as a direct insult.
Avoids interacting in meaningful or deep ways with anyone she perceives to be more attractive, intelligent, talented, outgoing or successful than herself (close relatives and their loved ones included). Allows only brief and superficial interaction with these people.
Takes questions showing interest in her life, her activities and her children as if the interested party is sizing her up and judging her.
Harbors secret resentment for years
Rarely engages in any kind of self examination
Rarely admits personal fault, even to herself
Never apologizes for anything she has done wrong, because of course she won’t admit that she has done anything wrong
Is very skilled at forgetting good things from the past and exaggerating the bad, often positioning herself as a victim in scenarios from childhood that others would look upon fondly as lessons learned in the school of life.
Rarely remembers her own bad behavior from the past.
Is aware of how despicable all of this is and strategically weaves a (weak) cover up on social media by interacting superficially with people she avoids otherwise, leaving saccharine pleasantries as comments, calculating each “like” click, and projecting an overall pleasant outlook that directly contradicts her true feelings.
She is the unhappy one.
– CS